It can be easy to have a fun and romantic courtship period, but you may worry that your marriage won’t last once the initial spark has died down. However, if you want to live a happy married life, then you have to work on keeping the romance alive and on continuing to grow—both with your partner and as an individual. Though it’s not always easy, you can make your marriage thrive if you and your partner are willing to put in the effort.
Don’t forget to say “I love you”
Don’t ever think that you don’t have to say “I love you” because your partner should already know how you feel. Make an effort to tell your partner how much you love him or her at least once or twice a day and make sure you slow down, look your partner in the eyes, and say it like you really mean it. Don’t just say “Love ya!” as you leave the house or say “love you” in a text message—take the time to let your partner know how much he really means to you, in person.
- Making this small effort to say these three sacred words can make a big difference in your relationship.
- Don’t just say these words because you want something or because you’re making up after a fight; say them just because you truly feel them. That’s when it means the most.
Start your day with a warm kiss or a hug
Making this effort to be affectionate when you start your day can lead you to feel more loving toward each other for the rest of the day. Though you may want to get started with your morning coffee and grooming routine, just spending a few minutes hugging, kissing, or cuddling your spouse can help you start the day off on the right foot. If you don’t see each other all day, then this affectionate gesture can make a lasting impression until you see each other again.
Taking the time to kiss your partner for just six seconds in the morning can spark the passion in your relationship. Don’t just give him a perfunctory “Bye, honey” kiss on the cheek; make sure you mean it, even if you’re in a rush.
Make time for each other
As your relationship progresses, you will find that there will be more and more obligations that will keep you from having time alone. However, you should make sure to get that time alone every week, even if you have to sacrifice some time with friends or family to make it happen. Remember that hanging out at your friend’s birthday party or at a barbecue at your parents’ house isn’t the same as just spending time alone together.
- If you feel like your schedules have been insanely busy and you haven’t had time alone together, then you should try to steal even a few minutes of your spouse’s time, whether you go for a quick walk together during a family outing or spend some time alone at a party.
- As for your dates, make sure you plan those well ahead of schedule, so you and your spouse know to keep your schedules clear for those dates.
Don’t underestimate the power of touch
Make sure to hug, touch, reassure, kiss, hold, or just be near your partner as much as you can. That physical connection can help keep your relationship strong and can make you feel close to each other, even if you’re not always on the same page. If you grow distant or cold and don’t even sit near your partner when you’re on the couch together, your relationship will grow distant, too.
- Not everyone likes to be touched the same amount, especially not in public. Even if you’re not a big hugger, or a PDA person, make sure you give your partner reassuring touches at the right moment as much as you can.
- It goes without saying that maintaining a healthy sex life can also help your relationship flourish. Be open and honest with your partner about exploring what you like and don’t like.
Don’t forget to do the little things that make each of you smile and feel loved
Whether it’s giving your partner a kiss on the hand, doing chores for him when he’s having a busy week, or leaving a sweet note on the mirror before you leave for work, you should never stop doing the little things, no matter how tired you are or how comfortable you feel in the relationship. You should never get lazy when it comes to your marriage and make sure to always make your partner feel special and loved.
If you’ve been too busy to do some of the usual things you do for your partner, try to make up for it when you have a bit more time. Let your partner know that you’re aware that you haven’t been as attentive as usual and that you want to make up for it.
Let your partner know how much you appreciate him
Make sure your partner knows how much you appreciate the little everyday things he does, like doing the washing up or making the bed. Don’t take those things for granted and tell your partner that you really do love and appreciate him and are grateful for all of the help he gives you. Of course, you can also respond by doing things that make your partner appreciate you in return.
You can even write your partner a love note thanking him for all of the things he’s done for you, from taking care of the dog while you’ve been sick to planning the most amazing birthday party ever for you.
Surprise each other with little gifts or tokens of appreciation
This will make the moment even more special. Gifts need not be extravagant or painfully expensive. It is always the thought that counts. A little something to create warmth and sweet memories can go a long way. Pay attention to your partner to hear what he’s been wanting and to get that unexpected gift for him at the right time.
Though special occasions, such as birthdays or anniversaries, can be a great time to give a gift, sometimes the most thoughtful gifts of all are given just because. Then your spouse won’t feel like you gave a gift just because you were obligated to do so.
Help your spouse out when he needs it
If your husband has had a busy week, then you should be understanding of that and spend more time cooking or doing work around the house. When you’re having a hectic time, he should do the same for you. Though you should find a balance of work that makes sense for both of you, if you care for your spouse, you should make an extra effort when he really needs you most.
Your spouse may even deny that he needs extra help, but if you can see that he is stressed out and overwhelmed, make the effort to cook, take care of the dog, or run some basic errands that week.
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