In Japan, motherhood is a highly respected career
Japanese woman are known for their dedication to raising their children, overseeing their education, and managing the household. A young Japanese child once wrote in a poem: “I am like clay, always being molded into different shapes by mother’s firm hands.” Japanese mothers are almost never separated from their children. They carry their infant children almost everywhere and they often sleep with their children instead of theirs husband. The mother is expected to completely devote herself to taking care of her children in every way. If you have any doubts, check out the current kyaraben trend, where Japanese woman put hours of work into making the perfect cute lunch for their child to take to preschool. Once children enter kindergarten, mothers are expected to painstakingly follow school instructions on everything from attaching permanent name tags to every personal item to making sure children give proper greetings to each other, their teachers and elders.
Japanese woman enjoy high global standards of education
While many women go on to four-year colleges and universities, a large percentage attend two-year junior colleges where they may learn secretarial skills such as book-keeping, they can also major in subjects such as nutrition, childhood education, nursing, music and literature. All these latter subjects are aimed at producing good mothers who can raise well-rounded, educated children. After all, if she’s going to raise a family, she may as well spend two years learning how to do it properly, just like you would for any other career.
In Japan, the woman holds the purse strings
With such a woman at the helm of the household, it should be no surprise that when she gets married, she is also in charge of the finances. The husband turns over his salary to his wife who takes care of all the outgoings and gives him an allowance to spend, which is reportedly around US$500 per month. Yep, women rule the roost here. She also has her own “secret” bank account which she adds to each month in order to cover her own needs, an occasional splurge or even to start a retirement nest egg.
Japanese women enjoy greater maternity care support
When they have babies, no one does it better than the Japanese. Besides maternal and infant death rates being among the most minimal in the world, there is no going home quickly after the woman has given birth. Instead, the mother is given 5 to 10 days in the maternity ward to rest and recover. During this time, new mothers will be instructed, by professionals, on how to care for their newborn. Women can choose either a public or private institution in which to give birth and Japan’s National Health Insurance pays out a standard 420,000 yen (US$3,927) to the mother, an amount based on the cost of an average delivery.
In addition, her own mother will often come to stay at her house for the first month after the baby is born to help with cooking and cleaning as well as to look after any other small children already at home and to be there to offer support, encouragement and child-rearing advice.
Women almost always get custody of the children in a divorce
According to the Civil Code in Japan regarding divorce, parental rights are given to either the mother or the father, not both. Joint custody is illegal and history has shown that courts will favor the mother 80 to 90 percent of the time. The parent who does not receive custody often never sees their child again. While visitation can be arranged informally among the parents, many women choose to not allow it.
Mothers win 90 percent of court decisions concerning custody. Some ex-wives are insistent that their ex-husbands never see their children again. Even when a court decides that the husband can see the children once a month the ex-wife can refuse to comply and not suffer consequences for it,” says Tanoue-san.
So in Japan, it’s not always about men. As a matter of fact, when it comes to family life, the man plays his role as the breadwinner to raise his kids
With motherhood elevated to such an art, it’s hard to see why women would want to toss away a career in child-rearing in favor of Japanese corporate culture that dictates long working hours, job over family, and low wages–the real culprits in Japan’s lack of full-time women in the workplace.
Once you start seeing motherhood as a career, it makes you wonder if it is fair to ask or even expect women to switch to a different career just because it is more lucrative or because it fills employment needs. If women choose motherhood as a career and feel fulfilled, isn’t that good enough? If a man has decided to go to trade school to fulfill his dream of becoming a mechanic, would you ask him to change his career? And, if more women leave the home to work, who is going to fill the void at home?
In the U.S., it would be unfair to say that a man isn’t as capable of raising a child as a woman. But that’s because we have a different work-life balance between our jobs and families. Japan’s work-life balance is more distinct: the men work, the women balance.
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